So, I was picking out paint swatches tonight to decide what delicious color to paint my kitchen accent wall and absentmindedly listening to the couple behind me argue about something. The husband kept saying things like "I could do it myself, it would look really nice and increase the value in our home." And then the wife would come in with "You would take your sweet time, it would never get done and it's too expensive. Stop being ridiculous." I glanced over for some reason and saw the dejected look on his face.
And it hit me. Just like in a remodeling project, in life, there are people who build and people who demolish.
Another example. Just the other day, I mentioned to a cashier that I loved living near our city's baseball field. It's such a fun thing to have close and such a great family activity for our community and aren't we lucky to have a team? The cashier told me that it's just a farm team that's really not that good and there's too many cars parked and she'd hate to live downtown where people park all over your street.
Or...I told someone that I love love having cats. They replied that they would hate to have cat hair everywhere and that litter boxes were really gross.
See where I'm going here?
I'll admit, as of late, it's been a real struggle for me to be positive and to be a builder. I've spread my fair share of negativity. But as I watched this man's face tonight, a scripture came to mind...It's in the Book of Mormon in 2nd Nephi, chapter 2, verse 25- "Adam fell that men might be, and men are, that they might have joy."
There will always be people that are going to demolish. They want you to be miserable just like they are. They have nothing good to say about anyone or anything. Anytime you say something positive or spread good news, they find a way to shut you down. We all have them in our lives. You know who they are....or who you are. The builders are the people who compliment you, who find the bright, funny side to anything, who try to make the world a better place through their actions on a daily basis.
The spread of negativity has increased as of late due to social media. Suddenly, it's cool to be a mean girl. I have read some scathing comments about a person or a group of people that are completely irrelevant. Earlier, I saw someone berate someone online because of an honest mistake that was made. I felt so so bad. It didn't make me smile. It didn't make me feel like I was there to have joy. Why do we do that? Why do we think that it's our place to destroy people, their actions, their beliefs and their dreams? It's NOT our job or our place. Our job should be to help one another become like Christ...by example. It's not our place to tell someone that their opinion is wrong or stupid or ridiculous just because we don't agree with them. We have no right to hate someone or insult someone because they're different. This trend needs to stop. Now.
Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone is different. We all have our own thoughts and our own opinions, and that's okay! In fact, it's awesome! If we were all exactly the same, life would be pretty boring, right? And besides, what does one have to gain from being unkind? Nothing.
So many times, at least in my case, we get so busy fighting our own battles, that we forget that everyone, and I mean everyone, is fighting one too. Life is easy for no one. It's not supposed to be. Do we become so wrapped up in our own worlds that we forget to offer the kindness that we expect and demand for ourselves to others? Are we too busy building our own world that we, maybe unintentionally, demolish someone else's?
Now, which one are you? Which one do you want to be?
I have a challenge for you. Find something beautiful in every day this week. Post it on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or whatever you choose to use. Tell someone thank you once this week and mean it. Pay someone a sincere compliment. Do something kind for someone, even if it's just letting them in front of you in line at the grocery store. We can make this world better. We can make it a more positive place where we might have joy.