I am a HUGE Grey's Anatomy fan. Like ...watched every single episode huge.
Naturally, when I heard that this was Sandra Oh's last season, I was distressed. I mean, she's Mer's person.
"If I murdered someone, you're the person I’d call to help me drag the corpse across the living room floor. she's my person." - Christina Yang
So, I wondered...are they going to kill her off like they have everyone else? Or is she just going to pull and Izzy and disappear?
So, I watched tonight's episode...and here's what happened. (stop reading if you haven't seen it yet...and you want to.)
Basically, Christina steals a surgery because Meredith is busy being a mom. Both admirable professions. Meredith is understandably upset. In her explanation, Christina explains that once upon a time, the two of them were walking the same path, heading for the same destination, together. They had things in common. They had inside jokes and a great unhindered relationship.
Then, Meredith adopted a baby and gave birth to another. Something had to give...and the path changed. Meredith was on the fast track to mom of the year...while Christina was still ... Christina.
Both things are absolutely admirable and acceptable.
Most of the time.
I struggle with this on a daily basis. I make friends. I think we're awesome. We do stuff together, we like the same things, we laugh and have fun, we cry, we vent, we live.
At first I thought I was just being a rotten, envious person. And then I realized, I'm not envious. I love my life. I love my little world. And you love yours. And that's okay. But instead of being my person, you now have to be someone else's person. And again, that's okay. For you.
And I'm aware that you don't do these things intentionally. I understand that family comes first. I understand that mommyhood comes first. I accept that. But sometimes, I really need a friend...and when I struggle, I have no one to turn to because everyone is busy. Busy with dance or gymnastics or soccer or school or life. When my husband is gone, I have no one to call to go to the movies with...not because I know y'all won't go, but because I don't want to burden you. I know you have more important things to do than watch movies and wander around the mall.
Infertility has made it so that I am forever stuck in young adulthood. I still go to the mall and window shop. I still go to movies. I eat cupcakes for dinner...and breakfast...and lunch. I wake up when I want to, I do what I want to, I watch what I want to...Tim and I basically do all the things we did when we were first married. Not much has changed.
And that's okay.
I'm not saying that I'm sad or hurt or devastated because I've been through multiple Meredith's in my life...I just never pictured myself as Christina...
Please know that I think you're all great moms. I think what you're doing is amazing. I could never, ever do it. Ever. Know that I miss you, but I would rather you be where you are because I understand the value of a good parent. Know that I pray for you and your kiddos. I love you and your kiddos. And just because I disappear doesn't mean I don't like you. It means that my road is going to a different destination than yours is...and they're very far apart.
And I hope you do too.
And it's okay if you don't...
Because I'm okay.